Aftercare: Why a Cuddle After Sex is More Important Than You Think

Imagine this: You’ve just had sex. It was ok. Not bad, but you’ve had better. The to-do lists are starting to stream back into your head. You’re thinking about having to shower, or strip the bed, or whether this was really a good use of your time. And then your partner hops right out of bed and disappears to the bathroom. Suddenly, it’s go time. Intimacy is over and real life begins.

This does not make you want to have sex again.

Studies show that ‘average’ sex is rated as better if we spend time cuddling afterwards. Its also the moments our bodies are primed for emotional connection. But most of us are rolling over and reaching for our phones, getting in the shower, or just falling asleep. So what are we missing out on, and how do we change it?