Look at Your Vulva. No, Really. Look
The research on this is pretty clear: cis women who have a positive relationship with their genitals report higher self-esteem, better sexual wellbeing, and greater body image satisfaction. Women with poor vulva self-image experience more sexual distress, lower desire and arousal, and more pain during sex. How you speak about and feel about your body, even down to a specific body part, has real, measurable effects on your pleasure and your health.
Renaming Sex: A Sex Therapist's No. 1 Tip for More Satisfying Sex
Western culture has handed us an incredibly limited script for what sex is supposed to look like. Shaped by patriarchal norms, the dominant narrative is centred on the penis. This is both socially harmful and biologically inaccurate. Research consistently shows that the majority of women who experience orgasm do so through external clitoral stimulation, not internal penetration. If we define sex as the pursuit of pleasure, then building everything around internal stimulation alone ignores what actually works for most vulva-owners.
How can we have more 'Feminist Sex'?
Feminist movements have reshaped our world, yet in our sex lives, patriarchal conditioning still holds strong. Instead of enjoying our desires freely, we often worry about body image and meeting others' expectations. Feminist sex is about breaking these pressures, finding joy in our bodies, and experiencing sex as an expression of our true desires—not those imposed on us