Modernizing Sensate Focus: My Trauma-Informed Twist As An Inclusive Sex Therapist
Sensate focus: the bread and butter of sex therapy. In the 1960s, Masters and Johnson developed what became the go-to treatment for couples struggling with desire, arousal, and intimacy - and the outcomes are genuinely good. But it was built on heterosexual relationships and assumes we're all working towards the same kind of sex. As an inclusive, trauma-informed sex therapist, I use sensate focus regularly - but with my own steps, my own ground rules, and a few twists along the way. Here's my version.
A Common Tale: Understanding Responsive Desire
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Wow, that was great—why don’t I do that more often?” after sex… only to roll your eyes at the idea the next time it crosses your mind?
If so, you’re not alone.
In this blog post, I explore what is meant by the term ‘responsive desire’ and how we can use this to improve our sexual wellbeing.