Parents and Teachers, take Gisèle Pelicot with you into Sex Education
In my work with young people, I talk constantly about healthy relationships, red flags, masculinity and misogyny, and how to keep yourself and your friends safe. Gisèle's story gave me new language for almost every conversation I have in schools.
This security guard, a man, not only reported what he saw but encouraged the three women to report it too. He understood that if they didn't all push together, nothing would change. What he could not have known, was the huge underworld he was about to unveil.
Although it was men who committed these crimes, it was also men who gave Gisèle justice. Her lawyers. The security guard. The police force who treated her with respect.
Improving our consent education, positive role models, and how to report crimes - we can prevent this from happening again.
Play and Pleasure in Psychosexual Therapy
Sex is often perceived as a high-pressure activity. Many people feel weighed down by expectations of “performing well,” which can create anxiety and even take away from intimacy. When therapy enters the picture the seriousness can intensify. With homework, readings, and weekly check-ins, sex may begin to feel more like schoolwork than a source of connection and joy.
This is where Play comes in…
Adolescence: How the Manosphere is Warping the Sex Lives of a Generation
The new Netflix series Adolescence is just a drop in the ocean compared to the deep and growing influence of the manosphere on young people’s lives. While the show has sparked conversation around sexism in schools, knife crime, and parental responsibility, as a sexologist and sex educator, I want to focus on how this online world, now more exposed than ever, is shaping a generation’s understanding of sex, relationships, and consent.
A Sexologist’s Letter to Bonnie Blue and Lily Philips
As women, feminists, and human beings, we owe it to one another to reflect deeply on the impact our actions and online presence have on society.
If you truly believed in creating a sex-positive porn industry and society as you say you do, I believe that you would be concerned regarding the messages you share.
I understand that controversy pays the bills and clickbate is key for creators
Whether you acknowledge it or not, you are educators to your audience, particularly to young, impressionable viewers. Your choices shape not only their understanding of sex but also the societal norms they perpetuate.
As a sex educator, I see the fallout from this misinformation daily.
Featured: OnlyFans, porn, and the fall in teen condom use
BBC article
Could the influence of pornography, OnlyFans and so-called "natural family planning" techniques explain the drop in teenagers' use of condoms?
How can we have more 'Feminist Sex'?
Feminist movements have reshaped our world, yet in our sex lives, patriarchal conditioning still holds strong. Instead of enjoying our desires freely, we often worry about body image and meeting others' expectations. Feminist sex is about breaking these pressures, finding joy in our bodies, and experiencing sex as an expression of our true desires—not those imposed on us